Scratch everything written below!
Sure the guild is doing great, I’m proud of them and 99% of everyone is pleased. Unfortunately, one officer is not. Now, for what ever reason, he’s felt it’s his responsibility to be the wet blanket in our happy picnic of a guild.
Small Ventilation Process: that’s what these things are for, right?
Last Saturday, I skipped a raid. Since I’m also raid leader, and have lots of little conversations the whole week long regarding the raid, I thought it would be handy to make a message on the officer’s forums to communicate all the information I had; then wished the, then one and only, officer luck in getting things started.
When I logged in around 22:00, I was bombarded with whispers and rather abusive language in officer’s chat. He was offended that I should have the audacity to think he wanted to know what was going on to make it easier for both himself and the rest of the guild! How dare I ask him to take a member who’d not seen the beginning FL content because he’s been busy every Sat. for the past three months?! In sharing my communications and ideas for the raid I was taking “This Queen Bee Thing” to far and if I “didn’t realize the GL title was purely cosmetic with no meaning to it what so ever” he would ask for demotion! (this isn’t the first or second or third time he’s threatened me to step down from being an officer)
How did I handle this? Two sides to every story, right? Well, I forced myself to stay calm. Asked the raid what had happened with the officer. They gave me their side. He didn’t want to work out a rotation so he begrudgingly stepped out of the raid and suffered till I came online at which point he vented. I told him we would talk tomorrow, that I think I must have written something wrong and unintentional in my post to him. I would re-read it and was sorry for the miss communication.
The Next Day it all became clear!
He was still furious. Refusing to speak rationally or even without swearing. It all came down to one line I’d written in the post. After reading that one line, he saw red and didn’t even bother reading the rest. I had assigned two other moderators as this officer has a tendency to show up 5 mins before raid invites. I was pretty sure he wouldn’t have time to organize who was going and do invites on time. One moderator was to look for PuG’s if needed, the other was to do invites and give assistance to those who needed it and do healing assignments. The officer was to raid lead, be loot master and (here comes the horrible thing I said) “be the voice of reason ;-)” . I thought the wink made it obvious that it was a tongue in cheek joke but he went mental, completely missing the point. *sigh*
“Be the voice of reason” is apparently one of the most offensive things you can say to this particular person. Odd, since we joke about how that’s all I am around here and the key to keeping things running smoothly. Maybe he thinks I’ve done nothing while he logs in twice a week and doesn’t even greet people. I guess the guild started raiding and having fun all by it’s self.
Since Saturday, we’ve appointed another officer to the ranks and I have made it perfectly clear that I have taken enough whispered abuse from this particular hot head and shall suffer no more. One final chance till he blows up again (which I’m sure he will), at which point, I’ll be hunting for an officer again *sigh*. Some may ask why I don’t demote or kick him now? Well, I believe in trying all avenues before giving up. If I didn’t, this guild would have fallen apart ages ago 🙂 *raises glass* Here’s to hoping he’ll surprise me!
Why am I writing this all here??? Who cares about guild behind-the-scenes drama?
Why? When we agreed to take on a new officer and with this decision, the first officer deleted all our posts in which we had conflicts in.
Why am I letting you all read this? Saga forced me!