A raid leader has a lot of responsibilities in a guild. They have to manage the raiding roster and invite list, read boss guides and device a strategy that will work for your particular group. Then of course there’s the actual leading of the raid which is no small task in its own.
In a raiding group you’re dependent on your raid leader doing all of those things, but there is one more thing that you may have forgotten. The raid leader sets the mood of the raid. If he/she is in a bad mood it will rub off on the group. If he/she is in a good mood it will also rub off on the group. Whatever mood you bring as a raid leader is most likely going to show in your group.
There are different styles of raid leading; you have the people who push and yell and you have the people who support and coach. Neither is right or wrong, you just have to figure out what works best for you as a raid leader and your raiding group.
What doesn’t work is bringing your bad mood into the raid.
I’m sorry, but if you had a shitty day at work or you’re in a bad mood for any reason – either find a way to set it aside for the raid or let someone else do the raid leading for the night. Having a raid leader who comes into the raid and immediately starts complaining or being rude isn’t helping anyone, all it does is aggravate the group and their performance will suffer.
If you act and sound like you’d rather not be there – and this goes for members as well – then maybe you shouldn’t be there.
Tonight our raid leader was in a bad mood. I couldn’t tell you why, but it rubbed off on everyone. In the end one of the raiders couldn’t handle it and blew up, leaving the raid. I don’t think that rage-quitting is the answer, because even if it may make your point – it leaves the other 8 people in the raid hanging.
Who’s fault is it? Well, I’d like to say both. Our raid leader should have left his bad mood at the door, but the member who quit shouldn’t have done so – but tried to discuss it instead. That said, it can be incredibly difficult discussing something with someone in a bad mood. In the end, we had a ruined raid which had to be cancelled only three bosses in because we had no replacement.
I think we all need to think about what kind of mood we bring to the raid, because this is not a single player game after all, but you’re raiding with another 9 or 24 people – and they most likely don’t deserve you taking your mood out on them. This goes for raid leaders, members and officers – it’s everyone responsibility to make a raid a pleasurable experience, but maybe the raid leader’s a little bit more.