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  1. Hey this is Vidyala (from Warcraft et al) but my name is Stacey. 🙂 Congratulations on your baby! She’s lovely. Now for nitty gritty, I’m sorry the sleep has been so awful. My son (now 18 months) was a terrible sleeper. When other moms would talk about their babies sleeping so much I’d feel irate. He wouldn’t nap unless held, etc. We ended up hiring a sleep consultant. We were so desperate. She taught us SO much about infant and newborn sleep.

    The tl;dr version is that we weren’t watching for his early sleep signs (dead stare, red eyebrows) and only seeing the late sleep signs (eye rubbing, yawns). But there’s a 10-15 minute window from the first sleep signs, and if they’re still awake, they get the dreaded cortisol rush. You know when you’re exhausted and you get a second wind? That’s the cortisol rush for adults. For babies… it makes it hard for them to go to sleep, and it stays in their system for 24 hours! So bad naps leads to bad/restless nights. At that age they need 12-14 hours of sleep in a day/night combined. For our son this meant he was exhausted but just couldn’t sleep. Once we started putting him down in time, his naps got better and better. He started sleeping for longer stretches at night (we’d still give him a feed once at night when he was still young enough to need it).

    Anyway, I’m sorry to bombard you with unsolicited info, you can mentally tell me to eff off and I’ll understand, haha. I just recognized that same exhausted desperation I’ve felt. They’re so adorable but so taxing! Hang in there because it WILL get better and you’ll get some you time back.

    • Thank you for the tips, I really appreciate it. I don’t want to jinx anything, but it seems it might finally have turned. Her two bottom teeth came through the other day, and since then her sleep has improved. I now get a few hours in the evenings (even if she will wake up a few times, she can now be settled again, rather than staying awake for hours). Still not really into daytime naps, but as long as I get a few hours in the evenings I’m managing to stay sane haha

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