The Crazies are coming! Flee?

What do you do with the Crazies?

I’ve been asked, “How do you remain calm and upbeat for the guild when you deal with so much baggage from other people’s lives.”.  Answer:  Definition, Meditation and Perspective. Let me explain:

Definition:
We all know who they are.  We are all playing with one right now…or recently have.  They can be found in PuG’s, Raids, Instances, flying around Orgrimar or even leading your guild!  These are the guys who should have The Truly Insane awarded to them as a diagnosis and would be proud to wear it.

You have to define your guild mates!  I don’t mean judge them.  I mean look at them with objective eyes.  See their strengths and weaknesses.   Utilize the strengths and fortify the weaknesses.  For example:  My DD (Darling Demon) is a people person.  He LOVES to talk! So I put him on recruitment.  He’s great at it!  He also gets easily stressed in progression raids.  So I ask him not to lead those and try to attend since I have a calming effect on him. Everyone is the same.  Good and not so good sides.

Most people are balanced.  Their down sides are easily balanced out by their good.  But sometimes you meet a person off-balance.  This person takes more energy from you than it’s worth and still demands more.  The key is to identify them, file them under “crazy” and move on to the next step.

Meditation:
Very few people in the world are pure evil.  There aren’t really that many crazies either, just people acting the part.  This is why you need to think and think and think before you act.  Some people are having a bad day…or year.  Some people are undergoing major changes in their lives. Others are simply immature for their age and applied to your guild as the person they wish they were instead of who they really are.  Can happen, but you need to find out and bring it to light.

After you’ve “meditated” on the topic, it’s time to talk to the disgruntled member.  Be objective, understanding but not gullible!  Make sure you understand his/her side of things but remember your responsibility to the group as a whole.  If the member demands things that will hurt the guild or inconvenience other non-complaining members, and is in no other way justified actions, refuse respectfully and explain again what your community is about.  I believe it’s a game.  When it stops being fun, it’s time to re-evaluate where you are.  I use this a lot.

After the talk, if you’re anything like me, you’ll be feeling a little drained. Wondering if you did all you could and said all the right things.  This brings us to the final step:

Perspective:
When you’re feeling the stress of fellow gamer’s, do yourself a favor.  Close your eyes, take three deep breath, open them and look around you….yes, further than your computer desk.  What do you see?  I see my house, my husband and my son.  I look outside and see the city I live in and how much I like it here, but my son is my main source of peace.  One look at him and all the troubles in the world don’t seem so great.  At the end of the day, it’s just a game.

By keeping things in perspective you keep yourself energized to handle any new issues that might creep up.  Remember, as soon as one Crazy moves on, another one is making application!

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The Crazies are coming! Flee? — 2 Comments

  1. I can be crazy if you ever feel that you’re not getting enough of it one of these days 😉

    Your way of dealing sounds like it’s working. For me, I find that it also helps to have understanding fellow gamers/officers to use as a sound board. Somtimes to just be able to vent without worrying about repercussions and sometimes to get a different set of eyes on the problem. (This is probably why you’re my go-to person for all these things.. you poor, poor woman!)

    While you’re point about it just being a game is a very valid one, and definitely true – I find that the very nature of this particular game means that there are interactions with real people – and as such it has a much greater impact on us outside of the game than say.. playing Dragon Age. This of course brings both good and bad things, but I like to think that the fact that I play with other people, is the reason I keep playing WoW.

    That said, it is important to not let it run your life away from the computer, and I’m glad that you can get that perspective at the end of the day and not let it all get to you. Especially as a guild leader things can get tough, and I’m glad you have ways of dealing with it.

  2. Agreed! This game is personal as well as fun. It’s time spent, time away from family and it’s easy to take it too seriously. I wrote this when an irrational member finally left. Since then we’ve had some new and exciting things happen that’s screaming for me to write about!

    Next topic will be a classic with a twist: Loot drama when a loved one is involved!

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