What do you do with the Crazies?
I’ve been asked, “How do you remain calm and upbeat for the guild when you deal with so much baggage from other people’s lives.”. Answer: Definition, Meditation and Perspective. Let me explain:
We all know who they are. We are all playing with one right now…or recently have. They can be found in PuG’s, Raids, Instances, flying around Orgrimar or even leading your guild! These are the guys who should have The Truly Insane awarded to them as a diagnosis and would be proud to wear it.
You have to define your guild mates! I don’t mean judge them. I mean look at them with objective eyes. See their strengths and weaknesses. Utilize the strengths and fortify the weaknesses. For example: My DD (Darling Demon) is a people person. He LOVES to talk! So I put him on recruitment. He’s great at it! He also gets easily stressed in progression raids. So I ask him not to lead those and try to attend since I have a calming effect on him. Everyone is the same. Good and not so good sides.
Most people are balanced. Their down sides are easily balanced out by their good. But sometimes you meet a person off-balance. This person takes more energy from you than it’s worth and still demands more. The key is to identify them, file them under “crazy” and move on to the next step.
Very few people in the world are pure evil. There aren’t really that many crazies either, just people acting the part. This is why you need to think and think and think before you act. Some people are having a bad day…or year. Some people are undergoing major changes in their lives. Others are simply immature for their age and applied to your guild as the person they wish they were instead of who they really are. Can happen, but you need to find out and bring it to light.
After you’ve “meditated” on the topic, it’s time to talk to the disgruntled member. Be objective, understanding but not gullible! Make sure you understand his/her side of things but remember your responsibility to the group as a whole. If the member demands things that will hurt the guild or inconvenience other non-complaining members, and is in no other way justified actions, refuse respectfully and explain again what your community is about. I believe it’s a game. When it stops being fun, it’s time to re-evaluate where you are. I use this a lot.
After the talk, if you’re anything like me, you’ll be feeling a little drained. Wondering if you did all you could and said all the right things. This brings us to the final step:
When you’re feeling the stress of fellow gamer’s, do yourself a favor. Close your eyes, take three deep breath, open them and look around you….yes, further than your computer desk. What do you see? I see my house, my husband and my son. I look outside and see the city I live in and how much I like it here, but my son is my main source of peace. One look at him and all the troubles in the world don’t seem so great. At the end of the day, it’s just a game.
By keeping things in perspective you keep yourself energized to handle any new issues that might creep up. Remember, as soon as one Crazy moves on, another one is making application!